A guest post by Daniel Nour
Lately, I’ve noticed a stream of Christians, who are also gay, sharing their stories.
It’s a privilege to read of their purity of heart, their sincerity, their (very human) pursuit of a holy life, etc. etc.
So, I’d like to introduce you to a voice for love, integrity and Christ.
His name is Steve Gershom and he is a gay Catholic.
Now, I appreciate that “gay” is a term loaded with cultural connotations, and this may prevent a complete understanding of Steve Gershom or any other complicated, varied human being with same sex attraction, or opposite sex attraction for that matter. Words are limited.
However we live in a society, and it employs language for meaning, and so… Steve is gay, and he is Catholic.
Here is part of his story, it might express some of his searing honesty,
Sex isn’t everything, but as anyone with any kind of sexual dysfunction knows, it’s an awful lot. Put the sexual aspect together with the other things that homosexual men and women often experience — depression, low self-esteem, loneliness, a sense (however false) of being utterly different — and you have a heavy cross.
As you can tell, Steve pulls no punches.
When people think of the Catholic church, there’s no mistaking that a myriad of sad and horrendous things come to mind.
Yet, for all the human crappiness, it is Christ’s church.
He built it, and he said that he would protect it.
And I see Christ in Steve, and in the Holy Father and in the millions of other Saints, named and unknown, alive and not alive, throughout the ages.
People at their best, people cooperating with the Holy Spirit.
Thank God for Gay Catholics like Steve, they’re vocation is in the real world, and their voice is crucial for an integrated understanding of holiness, marriage and celibacy.
Here’s Steve’s commentary on his favourite parts of the Pope’s big interview some time ago, the same interview where the pope made this much needed statement,
“A person once asked me, in a provocative manner, if I approved of homosexuality. I replied with another question: ‘Tell me: when God looks at a gay person, does he endorse the existence of this person with love, or reject and condemn this person?’ We must always consider the person. Here we enter into the mystery of the human being. In life, God accompanies persons, and we must accompany them, starting from their situation. It is necessary to accompany them with mercy. When that happens, the Holy Spirit inspires the priest to say the right thing.
Our pope is making a human response to people’s needs (See his recent letter of his to an Italian Gay Society.)
AND Superheroes like Steve Gershom are loving Christ and loving themselves with transparency and self-esteem.
If we keep it up, we can heal the wounds of isolation, insecurity and pain that have been made in gay people.
These scars were caused by members of the church itself as well as by society’s facile and stupid expectations of people: gay and straight or whatever else.
Pray for us Steve.